18 Reasons You May Be Sabotaging Your Weight Loss and Exercise Efforts – Part 4

by A Diet Community

weight loss sabotageToday we’re going to look at three more subtle weight loss and exercise saboteurs that often go hand-in-hand:

  • Inappropriate motivation
  • Losing weight for someone else (besides yourself)
  • Losing weight for the wrong reasons

Grab your journal – you may have a lot of writing to do today!

(Part 1  –  Part 2  – Part 3  –  Part 4  –  Part 5  –  Part 6)

Reason #10 – You Lack Appropriate Motivation

If you’re not properly motivated, you’re probably not going to lose weight.


Motivation is the fuel for the fire; it’s what keeps you going when the going gets rough.  When you want to quit, when you want to eat everything in sight because you’re tired of being hungry and feeling deprived, whatever it is that’s motivating you to lose weight is the thing that will help you stay on track.

The greater your motivation, the more likely you will succeed.

For example, if your only motivation to lose weight is to get back into the jeans you wore in high school (and you’re in your 40s now), that’s probably not going to be enough.

However, if your doctor told you that if you don’t lose 60 pounds you’re at high risk of having a fatal heart attack before your daughter starts junior high, you’ll probably be very motivated to stick with your diet and exercise goals.

The second scenario above is not to suggest that fear is the only worthwhile motivator. It’s not.

But the point is that you have to have a good reason – a powerful motivation – for losing weight.

Without one, you’ll likely sabotage your efforts over and over.


Reason #11 – You’re Losing Weight For Someone Else

Whenever you try to lose weight for someone else, you’re practically doomed to fail.

For example, if your spouse is nagging you to lose weight because he (or she) misses the “old, skinny you” that he was so attracted to, guess what happens?

You’re going to resent him.

And resentment is often a huge factor when it comes to self-sabotage.  To put it another way, resentment is a lousy motivator.

No one wants to feel pressured to lose weight – whether it’s by your boss at work, your significant other, your children, or your mother – it feels crummy.

Even if their concern is genuine (e.g. your weight is causing serious health issues), you can’t do it for someone else.  You must want to do it for yourself or you’ll find every reason under the sun to blow your diet time and time again.


Reason #12 – You’re Losing Weight For the Wrong Reasons

This one fits well with both of the above.  If you’re not losing weight for the right reasons – i.e., to be healthy and fit – you’re probably going to end up sabotaging your weight loss efforts.  And, just as stated above, one of the most common reasons for self-sabotage is resentment.

Typical “reasons” that fit into this scenario include things likeL

  • Fitting into a pair of skinny jeans to impress your friends at your upcoming high school reunion
  • Being fixated on reaching a certain weight (often a weight that is too thin)
  • Wanting to impress someone or get their attention

These are all superficial reasons for losing weight – and, as a result, terrible motivators.  Result?  Sabotage and fail.  Again and again.

Ultimately, the best reason to lose weight is to improve your health.

Without your health, what do you have?

All the rest (e.g. looking good, feeling better about yourself, being more attractive to potential partners, fitting into an old pair of jeans) is icing on the cake.

Just as you need to learn to eat to live, you need to make your health your number one reason for losing weight.

When you really think about how important your health is, you’ll recognize that good health is also one of the most powerful motivators as well.


Helpful tips:

  1. Consider what is really motivating you to lose weight.  Is it enough or too superficial?  Do you need to find a more powerful motivation?  Write down the most compelling reasons you can think of for losing weight and sticking to your exercise goals.  (Hint:  your physical and emotional wellbeing should be high on this list!)
  2. Write down the names of anyone you hope to impress or please by losing weight.  Ask yourself why this person’s opinion or approval matters so much.  Write down all the reasons YOU want to lose weight – for you.  Review this second list several times a day.
  3. Along the same lines as tip #1, write down your current reasons for losing weight.  Consider if those reasons are valid or truly important.  Now, right down the most important reasons for losing weight (again, health should be a high priority).

(Part 1  –  Part 2  – Part 3  –  Part 4  –  Part 5  –  Part 6)

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